Cloth Diapering (Again!)
We used cloth diapers with our first child, and are happy to return to a slightly modified version of our diapering routing with our newborn. While they’re a financial investment up-front, they end up saving money over time, in our experience.
It's estimated that disposable diapers make up over 2% of the garbage in American landfills each year-- that's millions of tons. One of the key criticisms of cloth diapers is that they require an increase in water to wash, but that amount of water is far less than the amounts required to manufacture new diapers and packaging— to say nothing of the toll of transport and disposal of single-use goods. Parts of cloth diapers must be washed after every use, but shells from hybrid styles can be used multiple times in a row, depending on the circumstance. If a cloth diaper is well maintained, it can be put to use for years and passed on to other families.
Here is a simple run-down of our process and resources.
Diapers
We use Grovia all-in-one cloth diapers. Since it’s not recommended to go more than 2-3 days between washing, we find that we need about 10. We have the newborn styles (which we’ll soon pass on to a friend and/or a Buy Nothing Group), and about 15 of the larger size, which get more use since they are adaptable and grow with the child.
Cloths
We’ve collected reusable cloths over the years, and have a stack of about 25 for diapering. Grovia cloths are super soft and gentle, and we also use some we sourced via Etsy.
Turning Cloths into Wipes
For a gentle alternative to conventional baby wipes, we spray this all-purpose solution onto a moist cloth. We also have a stack of Water Wipes in case we’re out of any supplies, or if we’re on-the-go.
Changing Surface
We prefer Gathre mats for changing, and always have 1 hand on the baby since there are no safety straps. We have one padded mat, and one foldable mat that can be used on softer surfaces.
Rinsing + Storing (after use / pre-laundry)
After changing the baby and relocating her to a safe spot, we rinse soiled diapers above the toilet with a handheld sprayer / bidet nozzle. This ensures that no major messes make it into the washer/dryer. (It takes about 5-10 minutes to install, and works with most toilets.)
Mop Bucket
We temporarily store rinsed, used diapers in an open-top mop bucket (which we suspend from a shower curtain rod in order to save space) so they can breathe. After emptying the bucket for laundry, I spray the container with an all-purpose, non-toxic solution and let it sit while starting the wash wash. Then I wipe out the bucket with a washable cloth so it’s clean and ready for the next round.
Solids
To catch solids (to then dispose of in the toilet), we prefer bioliners. They’re not zero waste, but compared to a full disposable diaper, these dryer sheet-sized liners aren’t hugely wasteful and make cloth diapering much more doable for folks who wash at home. One roll of liners lasts a long time.
Laundry
After removing fecal matter from diapers via our rinse method (outlined above), we run diapers on rinse/spin cycle on cold with no detergent. Then we wash using hot water and 1 Tbsp of concentrate, and 1-2 scoops of Oxygen Boost. (I personally am not obsessed with keeping the diapers pure white. As long as they’re clean, I’m not bothered by slight discolorations when they happen.)
Drying
When possible, we dry the diapers in the sun on our retractable clothing line. It helps bleach the cloth while saving energy.
Travel / Diaper Bag
We tote a zippered wet bag around for used diapers while on-the-go.
Averting Fuss
Our newborn is too young to require entertaining during changes. However, when our son was of an age when he needed some entertainment to get him through the cleanings, we showed him musical greeting cards that folks had sent him over time. They offered plenty of amusement with no need for a screen.
Small Space Jungalow Gems
“I believe that creativity, not wealth, is the key to having an amazing home.”
- Justina Blakeney
She celebrates maximalism, whereas I focus more on minimalism.
She’s a connoisseur of color, I gravitate towards muted tones.
She plays endlessly with bold patterns, I am satiated by subdued textures.
And yet, despite our enormous differences in design tendencies, I am one of Justina Blakeney’s most avid fans. I’ve used Justina’s work in nearly every interior project I’ve tackled, including my own living spaces, where her books are always within arm’s reach.
Justina is not only a one-of-a-kind, world renowned artist, designer and creative director— she is also a strong champion of others. She supports numerous non-profits (including The RightWay Foundation), she helps other makers with her generosity and transparency, she speaks up loudly and clearly for human rights, and she pulls as many folks as she can up with her as she vaults past milestone after milestone in her business.
I’m ever in awe of her talent and spirit, and I cannot believe that I get to call this wonderful woman my friend.
This week, Justina and her team revealed some of their newest designs in collaboration with Target, so I’ve rounded up 10 small space gems from that collection. (Pieces available June 26th.)
Fourth Trimester + Newborn Baby Essentials
Small space newborn baby essentials
As I blissfully but groggily navigate the fourth trimester, I’ve compiled the following list of items that have been the most useful to me over the past 8 weeks. However, much more important than any of these material goods is clear communication inside my partnership with Adam. The sharing or division of responsibilities, as well as making space for feelings and new realities are the most effective tools in our possession. And, at the end of the day, as long as our baby has food, shelter, health and love, she’s getting what she needs.
Note: I’ve linked many of the items below so readers can learn more about any given product, but if something sparks your interest, perhaps consider exploring a Buy Nothing Group, second-hand resource, or local small business rather than buying new via a big box retailer.
Click here for this customizable, handmade ring
Adaptable nursing pillow
I thought of nursing pillows as unnecessary items… until our little one ended up in the NICU. During the long hours there, I found it difficult to hold her tiny, cord-covered body without some sort of stable neck and wire support for her, and the pancake pillows at the hospital weren’t helping. This adjustable nursing pillow has a back pocket for a heating pad, built-in pockets for books, phones, cloths (etc), and three inserts for varying degrees of height and support.
Collapsable Cup
Any time I start breastfeeding the baby, I immediately become wildly thirsty. As I did while pregnant, I bring this cup absolutely everywhere with me. It’s collapsible (and then pocket-sized), and it helps me stay on track with my water intake.
Block dish soap
This is our favorite package-free dish soap, which we use in addition to boiling pump + bottle parts.
Reusable sponges + brush
Behold— a reusable sponge that actually works and lasts! We use it in tandem with this set of bottle brushes.
0-3 mo pacifier
We likely would’ve tried to skip the pacifier with the baby, but the NICU team provided her with some, so we occasionally do the same. We used this rubber version (plastic-free) with our first child (who stopped using them when he caught a cold around 1 year old), and so far they’ve worked well with the newborn, too.
Folding bottle drying rack
With all the pumping I do, a folding bamboo drying rack (atop a foldable, washable drying mat) is one of our most used items.
Stainless steel bottles
These bottles are lightweight for little hands, while being plastic-free and durable.
Breast milk collector
This brilliant little silicone, plastic-free suction pump is the most minimal, no fuss way of saving breast milk that I’ve tried. I use it when nursing by placing it on whichever breast the baby isn’t occupying.
Plastic-free milk storage bags
I don’t like freezing milk in glass (because I’m clumsy), so these silicone bags, which stand upright for easy filling + cleaning, are my favorite plastic-free method of freezing or warming breastmilk.
Baskets-turned-mobile-nightlights
For a portable nightlight, I popped rechargeable battery-operated twinkle lights into these sweet baskets.
Baby dock
I believe we have gotten more use out of our versatile baby dock than any other baby item.
Baby carrier
I was pleased with the washable, multi-directional carrier that we used with our first. I couldn’t wait to use it again with our second once she put on a bit of weight.
Portable, hands-free pump
I used this portable pump during my first pregnancy, and made it hands-free by adding a pump bra. There are also truly hands-free pumps, which are now available with reusable inserts (rather than disposable plastic milk collection bags).
Baby eat, sleep, poop journal
We found this journal helpful when keeping track of the baby’s functions per our doctor’s request.
Reusable wipes
While we do have a small stash of Water Wipes, we mainly use washable cloths from Etsy and Grovia. (I bought ours, but I plan to get a sewing machine and make my own soon!)
Cloth diapers
We used All in One cloth diapers for our first child, and have happily returned to using them with our second.
Spray nozzle toilet attachment
In order to rinse the cloth diapers before tossing them into an open-weave bucket where they await a proper machine wash, we use this easy-to-install handheld nozzle, which can also function as a bidet.
Peri bottle
On the subject of bidets, this upside-down peri bottle is pretty much a portable bidet. It’s especially helpful for post-delivery recovery when paired with a few drops of Witch Hazel.
Organic large swaddle
These Willaby undyed, organic cotton swaddles (gifted to our family by @dr.organicmommy) are slightly oversized and thus usable as a baby blanket, nursing chair cover, swaddle, burp cloth, and stroller or baby carrier sunshade.
Folding baby gym
Perfect for small humans and small spaces, this minimalist folding baby gym was a favorite of our son’s, and is now being put to use by our daughter (and — occasionally — by a pushy beagle as well).
Stretchy toys / Teethers
These handmade, stretchy fabric and natural BeachWood Teethers can be used on their own or with an activity center, like the one we have.
Folding upright bouncer
We didn’t use one of these with West, but little Léa has reflux and spits up large amounts of milk regularly. This bouncer has been extremely helpful for keeping her safely upright during the moments when we’re unable to hold her. It has a minimal design and folds easily, making it practical for small spaces.
Unbreakable books
“Indestructibles” are chew proof, rip proof, 100% washable, and non-toxic. While we like board books, they take up a great deal of space. By contrast, this series of slim books for early readers is practical for families with young kids in compact quarters.
Lactation bites
When nursing overnight, I usually eat one of these yummy little lactation bites to help keep my milk supply up.
Skincare (body)
This pregnancy + nursing safe, fragrance-free, all-body moisturizing stone is handmade by a small business, and is entirely plastic-free. It’s the only body moisturizer I’ve used for years, and it’s even mild enough to use on babies. The stone travels easily and requires very little space on the shelf or in a bag.
Skincare (face)
Other than soap and sunblock, these are the only two products I use daily on my face— a serum and a treatment essence. I feel comfortable using them while pregnant and breastfeeding, and they replace an entire suite of other skincare products. They arrive in minimal, plastic-free packaging, and are housed in compact glass bottles.
Apron
I’m constantly being spit up upon, and I’m always in need of spacious pockets. As such, rather than tailoring my entire wardrobe to accommodate such realities, I’ve started covering my outfit with this handmade linen apron, which has roomy pockets and easy access for nursing.
Four Tips for Outfitting a Compact, Mixed-Use Space
Note: This blog post was sponsored by Pottery Barn, who donated goods to The RightWay Foundation as part of this partnership.
Our temporary space is working overtime these days. It’s a nursery for our 1 month old, a play room for our 4 year old, my office (at least while I’m nursing and closely monitoring the baby around the clock), and our bedroom. With 4 humans and 2 dogs bumbling around between these walls non-stop, functionality and wear-and-tear are just as important to consider at length as aesthetic.
While the room isn’t tiny, it’s not large either— plus it’s filled with tricky angles. There’s only one place a queen bed could fit (we opted for a Full), and the use of several walls is cut short by a diagonal closet door, a shelving-turned-nursery nook, a pair of low windows, and the door. As such, finding furnishings that were juuuuust right ended up being a delightful challenge.
STREAMLINE SEATING
As is often the case in a compact space, a bench (rather than a bulky-backed sofa or overflowing armchair) is practical for creating a combination seating area + drop zone. (Tip: A design with right angles and open legs is a bonus, as it almost always helps to maximize the look and feel of the room.)
This woven bench uses seagrass cord, which is handwoven around a wooden frame, to create a sturdy, texture-rich surface.
Pictured: The Malibu Woven Bench from Pottery Barn
DEFINE ZONES
A helpful way to define sections in a multi-use space is through the use of rugs. This Fair Trade, handwoven, indoor/outdoor rug was crafted from recycled plastic, and is particularly useful in a room that gets a lot of traffic, such as this one.
The runner’s fibers were made from up to 612 single-use plastic bottles, which are now living out their new life as our pups’ favorite spot for a mid-morning snooze.
Pictured: The Kian Eco-Friendly Indoor/Outdoor Rug from Pottery Barn
CORRAL THE CLUTTER
Bins and baskets are essential for organizing and concealing items within small spaces. This particular basket was ethically handcrafted to Nest standards (to support the workers behind it), with natural, sustainable seagrass. They are perfectly sized for use with such space-saving furnishings as this hall tree and this wall shelf. In our case, we’ve used them to corral our daughter’s cloth diapers— man of which are hand-me-downs from her big brother.
Pictured: A Savannah Handwoven Seagrass Utility Basket from Pottery Barn
FUNCTIONAL DECOR
It’s not just important to streamline clutter— it’s important to stop inviting it into your home in the first place. When outfitting a room of any size, decorating with living greenery and useful items such as books, clothing and lighting will add visual interest through serving more layered purposes.
Pictured: A Fair Trade bud vase from Pottery Barn
GIVEBACK
I want to thank Pottery Barn for sponsoring this post and supporting my small business. With every purchase of indoor wood furniture, Pottery Barn, the company plants a tree in an effort to restore vulnerable, critical forest ecosystems around the world in this time of climate crisis. Their goal is to plant 3 million trees in 3 years. (Click here to view Pottery Barn’s current sustainability commitments.)
Additionally, Pottery Barn has been an ongoing donor to one of my favorite non-profits, The RightWay Foundation. In support of Foster Care Awareness Month they generously sent numerous non-toxic, mindfully made comforters to the youth of this wonderful LA-based non-profit.
Our Newest Family Member
Post Summary: My shortened, high-risk third trimester, my attempts to engage in hypnobirthing practices during an induced hospital birth, how our family navigated the NICU experience, and how overjoyed we are with our baby’s safe arrival.
I’m pretty sure that this is what magic looks like, folks. Introducing the new member of our cottage crew, little Léa (pronounced “lay-uh”) Lou:
Today is Léa Lou’s original estimated date of arrival, but she was born three weeks ago through induced labor.
PREGNANCY & COMLPICATIONS
When I was 29 weeks pregnant, we had a medical scare that set the pace for the remainder of my time carrying. What had initially been labeled a “normal” elderly multigravida pregnancy for the first two trimesters was then revealed to be truly high-risk, as it turned out that our baby was classified low birthweight, and measuring below the 1st percentile across several parts of her body. While identifying her fetal growth restriction (known as IUGR), the doctors also discovered that I had a 2-vessel umbilical cord, which was the only contributing factor we could pinpoint regarding WHY my baby was so extremely small. (It was especially perplexing, as I’m nearly 6’ tall, and my husband is several inches taller than I am.)
From then on, I went to the doctor twice-weekly for fetal heart rate monitoring, blood pressure checks (always normal), and routine evaluations of the baby’s measurements, weight, and practice breathing capabilities. Every visit carried with it the possibility of emergency induction, but, thankfully, it never came to that.
LABOR & DELIVERY
Over time, our family and the medical team dared to hope that the baby was simply on her own timeline, and growing small with no other health complications. Still, I’d been advised to remain on alert for a potentially urgent delivery— possibly via c-section, if it appeared that the baby’s tiny body couldn’t handle the stress of the journey through the birth canal.
When I reached week 36, I was scheduled for an induction for week 37.
I practiced hypnobirthing with West, and had been planning the use of similar labor techniques for this upcoming birth experience. Inducing labor was not part of my vision, but it become apparent that the benefits of delivering our baby early outweighed the benefits of maintaining the pregnancy until full term, as her growth remained alarmingly slow.
I was induced with Pitocin and the use of a foley bulb, which is a catheter that’s inserted into the cervix. Both were unpleasant, but the other elements of the birthing process were as wonderful as I imagine a hospital birth could be.
As I’d hoped, I was able to labor without the assistance of pain management medication, just like I did with West. However, this decision wasn’t without risk. By foregoing an epidural well into the delivery process, I was making a gamble. If the baby needed an urgent C-section that far into labor, I would have to be fully put under for the surgery, and Adam wouldn’t be allowed in the operating room. Our child would be born without a parent witnessing and having a voice at the birth.
But I felt confident that our baby knew what she was doing, and that— again— she was simply on her own timeline.
During active labor, I focused heavily on my breath, and on breathing the baby down. I listened to breath-work audio tracks and a small selection of music via my AirPods. I managed surges by picturing myself in the ocean, pressed fluidly against firm but safe currents and waves. And, randomly and unexpectedly, I also found myself mentally choreographing movements that corresponded with the songs playing, which also helped guide me through the contractions in a meditative-like state.
When I progressed to the stage that’s almost entirely debilitating, Adam and the incredible medical staff were there to encourage and support me. They did so with respect, allowing me to maintain a sense of dignity as a birthing mother in a highly medicalized environment. I remember expressing my gratitude to them in moments between rapid contractions, as I felt exhausted but overall relieved and empowered thanks to their expertise and approach.
Although Adam and I had a few favorite names standing by, we agreed to wait until we met our baby before assigning one. But, in the otherworldly moments of the final push that ushered our hummingbird into this world, I surprised us all by instinctively crying out Léa without conscious thought as she transitioned out of my body.
It was with the greatest relief that we were able to witness her beautiful little body entering this world— tiny, but healthy.
A Week in the NICU
After some precious minutes nursing, as well as skin-to-skin time with Adam, Léa was tenderly relocated to the NICU. Even though she wasn’t technically a preemie at 37 weeks + 1 day, her low birthweight resulted in some similar conditions to that of premature babies. For example, our daughter was having issues regulating her body temperature, and she had newborn hypoglycemia (as we were warned she likely would).
I spent the majority of my 2 recovery days/nights in the hospital by the side of her bassinet, feeding her every 3 hours between her blood tests, temperature checks, and other newborn exams. The IV and needles were tough to accept as a parent, but as I looked around at the other babies in the NICU, there was no way of losing sight over how fortunate our family was. We were alerted to the details of worst case scenarios, but she sidestepped them all. There were a few sleepless nights when our daughter toed the line of needing further medical intervention, but she always pulled across the required thresholds in the end.
The skilled NICU nurses and staff worked 12 hour shifts, and there was almost always someone near Léa’s station. Adam spent the days with West and the early nights by Léa’s bedside. After being discharged myself, I drove back and forth to the hospital multiple times per day to nurse the baby and deliver pumped milk.
After Léa regained the ounces lost after birth, along with an additional ounce to get her to a carseat-safe weight, we were permitted to take her home. Our tiny NICU graduate left the hospital with warm encouragement from the staff, and even soft cheers from passers-by.
As I sit here typing this with my daughter on my chest and the laptop on my thighs, I still can’t believe she’s here-- our mighty Léa Lou, a 3lb, 15oz (now 5lb!) miracle who takes my breath away and completes our family.
Acknowledgement of Privilege
Meaningful and tangible support is not provided for all pregnant women when it’s needed most. Systemic and interpersonal racism in America have lead to disparities in maternity care that result in a higher risk of complications and death for Black women and women of color. We are not powerless to help rectify this issue. Our voices matter, independently and collectively, so let’s get + stay vocal about the fact that equitable care must be accessible for all. Our elected officials are meant to represent us, so let’s champion those who support anti-racist policies that are geared towards a safer existence for women and children of color from conception through all stages of life. Visit Every Mother Counts for more information and ways to take action.
Creating an Outdoor Shower on a Budget
When we left our tiny home in Venice, we’d planned to take our outdoor shower with us, as we enjoyed and used it so much. But when the day of the move arrived, it dawned on me that the design wasn’t ideal for storm-prone Florida, as it could easily become a projectile in a hurricane. As such, we left it under the vine canopy for the next steward of the cottage, and decided instead to incorporate a wall-mounted garden shower in our new-build ADU.
(Related Posts: Our outdoor shower at The Tiny Canal Cottage / Enhancing privacy around our outdoor shower at the Cottage)
The construction of the ADU will take place over the spring and summer, which is, of course, when an outdoor shower is of the most use in the intense North Florida heat. So for the time being, I created a temporary, mobile shower with the help of a handful of items:
A garden hose with an adjustable nozzle
Outdoor curtains with tie or button tabs
A 3’ or 4’ hula hoop
A bird feeder stake
An patio stool / accent table
A teak bath mat (which can also be used to trap down the bottom of the curtains on breezy days)
It’s not the most polished finished product, but it actually makes for a dreamy shower experience, while being simple and inexpensive.
Outdoor Lounge for Spring
When we recently relocated our lives, we did so for family, and to have (safe) access to magnificent land.
As an outlet for enjoying both, we’re always exploring ways to establish joyful settings outdoors for us all to experience.
For this mini setup, we used a minimal number of dynamic, key pieces that form a simple space for relaxing outside during these warmer months.
My Attempt at a Lower Waste Hospital Bag
Unlike our multitasking nursery, which I was sluggish to tackle since we’re in a temporary space, I packed my hospital bag more than a month ago. At 29 weeks, I was admitted to the hospital with complications regarding my high-risk pregnancy, and was gently told at the time to be prepared for labor and delivery every week since. I prepped my suitcase shortly thereafter, and it has since been standing dutifully by. I’ll soon reach 37 weeks — a marker I didn’t think I’d reach, but am profoundly grateful to be approaching.
SIMILARITIES + DIFFERENCES BETWEEN MY FIRST BAG VS THIS BAG
For this upcoming laboring experience, the contents of my hospital bag are largely similar to those from my first time around, and I’m reusing several necessities. I’ve made a few small adjustments to try and curb some of the single-use supplies that are regularly used in the hospital. But my attempts at a lower waste birthing experience are lopsided, as I’ve had to acquire some items I didn’t need the first time around— mainly in anticipation of a smaller baby and, potentially, a lengthier stay in the hospital. For some goods, I sourced second-hand, whereas I purchased new for others.
GIFTS FOR LABOR + DELIVERY STAFF
Another difference is that this time we’ve thought to include something else for the medical staff, as I’ve already logged long hours in the maternity department in recent weeks. Rather than guessing what goods might be useful to the large medical teams at our new hospital and scrambling to have bundles ready at any moment, Adam and I decided to have freshly baked pastries catered to the department come delivery day. (I asked a doctor well in advance if such a gesture would be permitted given COVID, and inquired outright if such a gift would be put to good use.) We figured this was a practical, low waste, affordable token of our appreciation.
Here are some of the items* in my hospital bag (a compact suitcase by Steamline), curated in anticipation of our specific situation:
Underwear
I packed a small pile of Knix period underwear, which I used prior to my pregnancy as well. They’re available in a variety of styles and absorbency levels. I also have a few nursing bras from Boob, and a hands-free breast pumping bra.
Large Collapsible Cup with Lid
I never leave the house without my oversized Stojo collapsible cup. The contact-free machine at the hospital allows us to refill it with water and ice chips whenever needed. (Those ice chips definitely helped me experience my first labor without an epidural.)
Portable Pump + Accessories + Bottles + Parts
In case the baby and I have a longer stay at the hospital, I’ve charged and packed the same tiny, portable breast pump and parts I used with West. (I updated the tubing and smaller accessories for hygiene purposes.) I also added a set of Colostrum Collectors, and my single, manual breast pump for use on one breast when feeding with the other.
Pura Stainless makes an interchangeable-part bottling system that we’ve used and appreciated for years. In case of a lengthier stay for the baby, we have a supply of stainless baby bottles and corresponding newborn/slow flow nipples packed in a small cooler bag that slides within/beneath our diaper bag.
Recycled Tech / Accessories
Thanks to their sustainable materials and plastic-free packaging, I’ve been a loyal Nimble customer for years. They make tech accessories such as longer-length phone / iPad cords, portable batteries, adapters and more, and I have a small supply in my hospital bag, as well as my purse at all times. I’ve also added a lightweight, travel LED mirror to my tech sleeve. And, just in case, I’ve got my laptop and password book for work, along with an e-reader and the portable bluetooth speaker that we usually keep on our cargo bike.
Cloth Diapers
We have a collection of new + used cloth newborn diapers from Grovia. These all-in-one washable diapers were what West wore, and we’ve always been pleased with how well they work, and how comfortable they seem to be for little ones.
Premature + Newborn Clothes
We have a few hand-me-down preemie garments (like the puppy onesie below) that we’ve packed for the hospital and for going home. Unlike last time, we also purchased some extra-small preemie pieces, as we expect they’ll be needed.
Toiletries
I cut off a slice of my tea tree + charcoal face wash bar, and packed it alongside the only two products I’ve relied on daily for years: Active Treatment Essence and Active Botanical Serum (both in glass vials) by Vintner’s Daughter. I also included items like refillable toothpaste tablets by Bite, plastic-free hair elastics, and bamboo brushes.
Baby Daily Log
This is the same journal we used to log West’s nursing + sleep + movements for his first few months. We had pages to spare, so the book is being put to repeated use.
Maternity / Nursing Clothes + Slipper-Socks + Masks
I’ve got my usual maternity and old nursing-friendly dresses ready to go, and opted to skip anything with a waistband entirely. I packed a few pairs of pilates-style, no-slip sock/slippers, as they’re practical for climbing in and out of hospital beds and traversing cold floors.
Vitamins, Snacks (for myself and family), etc.
We have a mini-cooler at the ready with my travel container of Ritual Prenatal Vitamins, my 8Greens tablets (which I began using once we started traveling across the country for our move and didn’t have easy/safe access to daily greens), routinely (re)packed fresh fruit, nuts, sugar-free hard candies, and Cerebelly granola bars for my 4+ year old in case he’s allowed to visit the hospital if COVID regulations regarding visitors change.
*Please note that some of the above links direct to major online retailers in order to provide readers with additional product details, while simultaneously supplying us with information on the number of clicks each link receives, and occasionally a (very) minor commission that helps support our small business. However, I encourage folks to search for any of these items via smaller, independent, low waste, and/or local shops when possible.
Before + After: A (Temporary) Multitasking Nursery + Bedroom + Playroom
Our second child arrives this month! As such, I figured it was time for us to finally finish the nursery / bedroom / playroom that we’re sharing while we await the construction of our prairie cottage, and the ability to travel to our little French farmhouse. Below are the before + after, along images, along with detailed views and process visuals. (I’ll let the photos do the heavy lifting in this post, as I’m currently wading through a thick cloud of third trimester insomnia and can’t seem to find my words the way I usually do.)
Click here to read about the space, and what we could change vs what we couldn’t.
Click here for the nook makeover, and details regarding how we hid the textured wall.
Below: The quick mockup / mood board I created to help me picture the space:
Beyond the nook, the primary pieces in the space are the rug, compact swivel chair, arched floor mirror, and side table from Lulu & Georgia:
Flexible jute baskets from Will & Atlas:
Below: A space-savvy vintage lamp I found on Etsy, then painted with Adam to better suit the space:
Below: Our favorite, all-in-one, washable cloth diapers by Grovia:
Below: Brass cranes by Justina Blakeney of Jungalow.:
We used several brass details throughout the space in honor of my Grandpa Lou, who ran a scrapyard. and collected brass pieces from the site.
Below: A space-saving, swivel-arm wall rack that we painted white:
Below: A handmade Sandhill Crane figure (via Etsy) floats above the crib.
Below: We chose a convertible mini crib from Bloom that expands in size and adapts in style when outgrown. Click here to read the full post about this piece, which we first assembled at the Cottage.
Below: A vintage wicker, toy lantern dangles from a wall hook from Connected Goods:
Before + After: Wallpaper Hack - How We Hid a Textured Wall
As short-term borrowers of our current, temporary living space (which is partially furnished and accessorized), we’re endeavoring to strike a balance between making it comfortable for our lifestyle, while also trying not to disrupt the space irreversibly. (Read more about my feelings on this balancing act via my previous post, and discover where we are and why we’re here via this entry from January.)
In our space, there’s a little nook in the multitasking nursery + playroom + bedroom, which I knew I wanted to turn into something special for our second baby, who arrives this spring. Other than the crib, this spot will be our newest family member’s only dedicated zone.
While envisioning the room makeover from across the country prior to our move, I’d pictured using a bright, playful, peel + stick wallpaper that would wrap around the full cubby, adding visual interest and depth to the otherwise static space.
… Then I remembered that the entire room (which was built in the late 80s/early 90s) has textured walls. Naturally, wallpaper won’t successfully adhere fully to textured surfaces. And even if it did, the details of the wall would show through.
Fully resurfacing or masking the walls (like with beadboard) isn’t an option. We’re not here long enough to make the cost and footprint worth it, plus a change of that magnitude feels like a disrespectful level of change to introduce to a borrowed suite. We did, however, update the walls to Pure White, replacing the brown-beige color that was here upon our arrival. Still, the room needed something more to make it feel special, and I wasn’t willing to give up the vision for the nook.
I decided to attempt an inexpensive little hack in order to incorporate the peel + stick paper and hide the textured wall of the cut-out. We went to The Home Depot and picked out a single, thin panel of plywood that is lightweight enough to easily hang from a wall, but sturdy enough to resist major warping from humidity.
While there, we worked with an employee to cut the panel into slices sized uniquely for popping into the three divided sections of the nook. For the larger, lower slice, we used one uniform panel. For the two remaining areas, we puzzled together the plywood with neutral-toned tape (so it wouldn’t show through the wallpaper,) in order to keep the panels somewhat flexible for sliding in and out of the tightly built-in shelving. We gave up on the idea of the full wrap for the sake of our sanity, hoping that if we could pull the hack off for the back wall it would be enough to scratch the itch.
We covered the panels with a peel + stick wall mural. I chose the mural version instead of the wallpaper, as I preferred a wider spacing / larger print of the artwork for this particular project, rather than a tightly repeating pattern. I selected an orange grove design as a nod to Florida, ushering in the rich greens and playful but watered-down terracottas I’d planned to use within the room.
Thankfully, the peel + stick mural was forgiving, as Adam and I had to reset it a few times to get the layer as smooth as possible over the untreated plywood. The application took about an hour, as I’m in my 8th month of this pregnancy and my range of motion is getting more limited by the day.
To our delight, the panels popped perfectly into the cubby, and a simple screw driven into either side of each panel is enough to hold them in place.
I can’t change the carpet or the dresser, but thanks to the mural I’m no longer bothered by those features. The simple decluttering of the shelves and the addition of the bright paint and orange grove artwork were enough to make the visual and emotional impact I’d hoped.
Our 4 year old likes it, as do we. I hope his little sibling does, too. We’ll find out soon!
Sources:
Jute Baskets: Will & Atlas
Abacus: Etsy
Clothing: Primary Dot Com (Use code WHIT25 for 25% off)
Wall Mural / Paper: Society 6
Duck Baskets: Vintage via Etsy
Changing Pad: Gathre
Designing a Multi-Functional Nursery in a Borrowed Space
Post Summary: Designing a Temporary Nursery in a Borrowed Space (as a Method of Soothing Anxiety)
Our baby is expected in April. Due to recent complications, it was recommended to us by medical professionals to prepare for the possibility of his/her early, emergency arrival. For now, we’re taking it one milestone week at a time, grateful for every tick of the clock with this little one incubating inside me.
I actively try to think positive. I do believe that there’s unfathomable power in our energy and mindsets. Still, I’ve found the anxiety I’ve experienced during this pregnancy impossible to shelve entirely. It bubbles up in odd times, and has crept into my actions — or inactions — throughout the first and third trimesters in particular. This has been the root of my reluctance to plan a nursery of some sort. To be uncomfortably transparent, I was scared of creating an environment for a little one who might never experience it.
With my first pregnancy, I found myself mentally designing the closet nursery from the day I saw my test results. It was such a deliberate and heart-filled little process and place, with no detail left unconsidered. This time around, I’m more focused on the baby’s first home— my body— and the way it has both bolstered and betrayed us. My priorities have simplified and slowed. I’m honed in on one sanctuary at a time. One event at a time. One day at a time. (This isn’t so much by choice as it is by necessity.)
In the first trimester, I looked ahead by bits and pieces. I squared away the crib, dug out the old carrier and cloth diapers, and made a list of pump parts that needed replacing. But then, between our move from the cottage and the subsequent health scares, I stopped. I felt stuck in every way.
Besides, this is my second time I’ve found myself planning a nursery — our last nursery — in a borrowed space. And much like my health, there are things I can change, and things I simply and frustratingly cannot. Sometimes it’s a relief to surrender to one of the limited paths before you. Other times there’s a sense of urgency to fight like hell to form a new path. I didn’t want to surrender. But I also felt far too stretched to do much of anything else.
This past weekend I turned 40, and I rounded a curve. I’m diving back into this precious pregnancy with a shifted mindset. Every kick and roll from the baby is part of a new, intimate conversation between the two of us about our future. Sleeplessness is no longer time wasted, but bonding time gained.
As far as the nursery is concerned, I’m regaining sight of an activity I love— working with what I’ve got. I’m blending what already exists in the room with a mix of layers and materials thick with meaning. (The photos in this post are various pieces + inspirations I’m putting to use.)
I can’t change the carpet, the ceiling light/fan, or even certain furnishings… just like I can’t change some of the things taking place within my body and the baby’s. But I can create a safe, and loving space— inside and outside the womb. And I am finally able to envision and embrace a multi-functional place for our growing family to experience together.
Posts showing the room transformation to come.
On my 40th Birthday: Celebrating Together the RightWay
Today is my 40th birthday.
There will be no toasts, as I’m in my third trimester of a high-risk pregnancy. We’re even sidestepping the once-obligatory pandemic Zoom gathering, as the internet connectivity out here is spotty at best.
None of this matters, because I get to celebrate in a more meaningful way with you— by supporting foster youth futures.
If you’ve ever found any information I’ve shared on my blog or Instagram to be of value, and if it’s comfortably within your means, I’m humbly requesting contributions to The RightWay Foundation this weekend as a way of celebrating my 40th together.
If you make a donation, please add a note of why in the digital Donor Scroll so I can thank you!
My family has everything we could possibly need. We want everyone to be able to have those same comforts. Our friends at The RightWay Foundation do critical preventative work to end the pipeline from foster care to homelessness, unemployment, incarceration, and poverty by providing foster youth with therapy, job training, community support, and connections to opportunities in the workforce. And RightWay's Operation Housing First program fights post-foster-system homelessness by guaranteeing rent in a furnished apartment and providing continuous mental health services, while assisting our youth in securing livable wage employment to help them achieve financial independence.
Thank you, as always, for being here and supporting our small business + family, as well as this organization that is so near and dear to our hearts.
Here’s to 40, and a brighter year ahead for all.
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Photos by Lucia Doynel
Until We Can Get to France...
Post Summary: A roundup of Airbnbs that in some way remind me of the homes or places I love in the same general region as our farmhouse. This post was created in partnership with Airbnb.
Recently I’ve found myself mentally mixing the past with the future as we await a safe and smart opportunity to head to our little farmhouse and reunite with the region that’s already felt like home to me for 14 years.
While I largely stayed in the same residence during my weeks or months in the Midi-Pyrénées in the past, there were still several opportunities to try Airbnb properties for fresh perspectives.
I enjoyed exploring new residential spaces from the design perspective, but it’s the human interaction and personal touches that stuck with me the most...
The host who pulled lettuce from her garden for our evening salads, the nearby restauranteurs who opened their doors after-hours to offer us a bottle of local wine, and the neighbors who went out of their way to patiently show us how dishes (like aligot or gâteau à la broche) are made.
The tea towels drying from the line offer insight on the owners. Windows thrown open wide invite opportunity to swap local delicacies. Balconies become perches for sharing news of nearby events or places to explore beyond the more well-traveled paths. And there’s always, always a French dog to cuddle. Yes, I find such joy in exploring various home designs, but it’s really the hosts and neighbors I’m most eager to encounter again some day.
Below, I’ve rounded up some rentals that in some way remind me of the homes or places I love in the same general region as our farmhouse. I’m eager to continue exploring and sharing new views and environments like this truly spectacular spot on the globe.
Click on an image below to view the listing. (All listings are in the USA.)
Planning a Nature Playground
Between the ten acres here and the eight acres of land enveloping our little French farmhouse, our family will cross over fields and pass under branches far more than we’ll cross over streets and pass under the shade of buildings. I’m relieved and pleasantly surprised that my four year old is into it all thus far— he was so acclimated to our Venice life, which was basically the opposite of this.
On a recent evening, as West and I held hands and stomped across the prairie towards a canopy of towering oaks, I asked him if he missed the beach. (In the month leading up to our relocation, he strolled to the Pacific every day to play in the shallow waves.) His reply was thoughtful but swift:
“I suppose so. I miss it, but not all the time. I like it here.”
I reminded him that it’s possible to feel many emotions at once, and to even harbor conflicting feelings. He considered this, and then reminded me in return that we can always drive to the beach when desired.
He then rattled off a list of things he loved about being here: the tiny wildflowers he collects for his Grandmother, the Sandhill Cranes he’s met, the frogs clinging to the windows, and the bright red twinkle of Mars overhead surrounded by gleaming stars. (That last point made me particularly happy, as I remember him pointing out a line of street lamps in Los Angeles when he was 2 and asking me if they were stars.)
I pointed out that all of the things he listed were outdoors, so I’d work on creating a small, rambling playground for him. He was overjoyed, and insisted we scout locations immediately, despite the fact that our dinner was cooling on the kitchen table as we spoke.
We’re taking time to plan out a nature playground made with found and foraged items that we can repurpose and use creatively throughout the woods. I’d like to include a small labyrinth of stones or logs as well, as a way of forming a little path that we can trace when helping West (and ourselves, for that matter,) sort through emotions and breathe deeply.
In the meantime, we’ve purchased a few wooden + rope items from Etsy to suspend from the trees. So far we have a swing, a climbing ladder, some rings, and a rubber tether-ball— all items that would’ve worked just as well in our tiny Venice garden or home if I’d only thought to look for them sooner...
I’m taking notes from my little one on how to sink into change. Like him, I’m embracing the new experience. But unlike him, I’m older— I’ll need more time to absorb everything. And that’s okay.
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Attempting a Low Waste, Long Distance Move
When we decided to leave our little home in Venice and relocate across the country, we knew we’d need to hire movers. Despite having a small indoor-outdoor space that isn’t hard to pack up compared to a traditional home, the realities of uprooting 10 years of live/work life while working full-time during a pandemic in the middle of a high-risk pregnancy with a 4 year old and two pups made it very clear that packing up a truck ourselves and driving it from one coast to the other would just be too much.
Thanks to my line of work, I’ve seen a fair amount of larger moves and installations, despite never requiring one myself. (Until now, for my own relocations in the past, I always just packed up whatever car I had and bopped on to my new setting.) In 2019, it was my experience with a client’s local move within LA that inspired me to halt my one-on-one interior decor and design work. The waste was staggering, and I didn’t want to play such a helpless role within it.
Above: Our “Company Car” the day it arrived from California.
I remember two key moments from that job that sparked the shift in my career. The first was unwrapping a box mislabeled as books that actually contained food, including an open stick of butter swathed in it’s own, massive slice of of brand new bubblewrap and kraft paper. (WHY?!) The second was standing in an expansive living space that was covered wall-to-wall in tape and single-use plastic sheeting to protect the shiny new wooden floor. As the wind slipped through the home, the plastic rippled dramatically, and I imagined that miles of it must end up in landfills within disenfranchised communities, and/or floating in the ocean beyond our tiny cottage, confusing and choking wildlife.
I was adamant about avoiding any similar situations with our own move. So we decided we’d pack everything ourselves, and then hire a moving service for the loading/unloading of the boxes and the transport.
Above: With the exception of one clipping that we brought with us, all of our houseplants went to loving homes in SoCal.
SUCCESSES / FAILURES
When attempting our low waste move, we succeeded in some areas, but failed in others.
GAS
We looked for a moving company that had bio-diesel trucks, and discovered that Northstar in L.A. has a fleet. We were delighted to confirm upon their arrival at the Cottage that the truck was indeed bio-diesel. However, we later learned that these specific trucks aren’t necessarily what are used for the long-haul trip, depending on the logistics of the move. (See below.)
SHARED LONG-HAUL TRANSPORT
Instead of hiring a dedicated individual or team to manage the relocation of our goods via one truck from door to door on set dates, we opted for a company that bundles the contents of numerous moves so that the long-haul ride is shared across clients. (Think of it as UberPool for your stuff.) So even though we were disappointed to find that our belongings didn’t arrive on the bio-diesel truck, we were happy to learn of all the additional stops the truck made and had scheduled. We were initially given a 30-day window for delivery due to this ride-share style of business, but it only took about 2 weeks for the contents of our Cottage to arrive (and we were of course provided with a 48-hour heads-up prior to drop off.)
PROTECTIVE PACKAGING SUPPLIES
To my absolute relief and joy, we were able to avoid buying any new protective packing supplies— no bubble wrap, no peanuts, no packing paper. Instead, we used every blanket, towel item of clothing, pillow or rug we had as protective materials.
The big positives were that this tactic saved us money, resulted in fewer boxes, and meant we had no fillers to trash or recycle. From what we’ve seen thus far, everything we packed this way arrived in tact. We’ve not unpacked it all, as we’re in a temporary space for the time being, but so far we’ve been pleasantly surprised by the effectiveness of our make-shift protective layers.
The negative side of packing this way is that the contents of our moving boxes are wildly varying. For example, our ceramic Walter Filter was stuffed with crochet clothes, wrapped in a baby quilt and, and padded within its container by winter coats. As such, there is basically no categorizing boxes for streamlined organization when they’re prepared in this manner.
BOXES
We failed spectacularly with the boxes themselves, as most of them were purchased new. (I know, I know. I’m not proud of this, folks.) We didn’t have the space to hoard used cardboard in advance, and most of what we did save in the bike/laundry shed suffered mild water damage that was enough to render the cardboard useless.
I had long hoped to drive around to local shops and marketing businesses and nab their used boxes, but between the risks pertaining to the COVID-19 outbreak in Los Angeles, but gave up due to the logistics of driving around the city for hours collecting and breaking down boxes (while pregnant and working and watching a 4 year old).
I researched renting reusable, collapsible crate-style boxes from Rent-a-Crate, but the hauling company required our entire relocation budget, and I was unable to allot the additional sum for crates that would not only need to be hauled, but also stored (and thus rented in an ongoing capacity) for several months.
TAPE
We spent a few extra dollars on two large rolls of brown paper tape instead of plastic packing tape. This tape needs no plastic cutter or dispenser, and was easy to use and effective at securing the boxes. I also find it far easier to remove paper tape when the time comes.
Complications
Content trigger warning: Third trimester pregnancy complications / fetal distress.
Yesterday we woke up to our very first morning in our new temporary home. I (safely) met with our architect, tackled my Monday work agenda, and felt flushed with relief over the opportunity to finally settle into a new routine that would allow me more moments with West, and dedicated time to better experience my third trimester.
Above: Photo from my first trimester in Venice.
By evening, I was in an ambulance being transferred from one hospital to another due to pregnancy complications after realizing how drastically my baby’s fetal movements had decreased during the previous, hectic days.
The initial test results weren’t good news, but thankfully they’ve since improved somewhat. The main issues stem from certain fetal growth complications. But I’m relieved that I believed my body when it told me something just wasn’t right, and that I then had the option of seeking medical help.
My family is now navigating our way through waves of vast worry and uncertainty, but we’re doing so with optimism and hope. Adam and I believe that our unborn child is resilient and knows what to do. And we have faith in the numerous professionals who have provided me and the baby with exceptional medical care thus far.
I’m not sharing this because it feels better to do so— it doesn’t. It feels too personal, and too terrifying to type out these words with sleepless eyes and shaky hands from a hospital bed. And it causes my family to further sink into some of the potential, unthinkable outcomes that have been outlined for us in stark terms. Instead, I’m sharing this to acknowledge the immense privilege I’m experiencing, even in the midst of gut-wrenching panic.
Meaningful and tangible support is not provided for all pregnant women when it’s needed most. Systemic and interpersonal racism in America have lead to disparities in maternity care that result in a higher risk of complications and death for Black women and women of color. We are not powerless to help rectify this issue. Our voices matter, independently and collectively, so let’s get + stay vocal about the fact that equitable care must be accessible for all. Our elected officials are meant to represent us, so let’s champion those who support anti-racist policies that are geared towards a safer existence for women and children of color from conception through all stages of life.
Become familiar with your reps — I need to get to know ours now that we’ve just moved, and visit Every Mother Counts for more information and ways to take action.
... And if you have a moment, please hurl a powerful, positive thought skyward for our little one. I certainly feel this community’s love and strength, so maybe that means my baby will, too.
Update: I’ve never felt more buttressed by community than I did this week. I cannot thank you enough for your support, which the baby must have felt as well. We were able to leave the hospital, and we did so as one - outcomes that initially seemed unlikely. From the depths of my heart, thank you.
Leaping from the Nest
Over the past two weeks, we gave away our single car and left our little home and community. I just realized that the only keys I have now are the ones for our bike locks.
Above: Details from packing up the Cottage.
We are carefully making our way (masked and distanced) across the country in a rented SUV. Our belongings now occupy a sliver of a shared-haul biodiesel moving truck. Our plants went to carefully chosen, loving homes. My small business is no longer rooted in California. The keys to our small, shared French farmhouse are being guarded safely in that region until we can responsibly get there. The prairie cottage is still in the architectural design phase. So, for this brief moment, we’re untethered.
Above: Packing up after an Airbnb stay during our careful road trip / move across the country.
Is this what I expected my life would look like at 39? Honestly, I can’t remember ever having a concrete vision of what I envisioned— or if I ever envisioned anything in particular at all. I’m currently at peace with that.
The last time I felt anything like this was several years ago when my long time employer-turned-client kicked me from her business’ nest, as her company underwent a major transition. I suddenly had no way to sink behind my usual daily comfort and routine. After years of diligent work, I found myself with no safety net, no stable healthcare and no paycheck. I urgently took everything I’d learned and applied it to creative new endeavors without a specific goal in sight. Both my business and personal worlds improved, and my life suddenly felt like my own in a way I realized it never had before.
This current moment in my life isn’t dissimilar.
Above: Working at an Airbnb during our careful road trip / move across the country.
I’d known that something needed to change, but that initiating and sticking to those changes wouldn’t be easy, as we’d built a life and nest we loved enormously in Venice.
Now, I’ve leapt from that nest, and I’ve pulled my family out with me.
I know it was the right decision. For growth. For creativity. For overarching sustainability. For deeper happiness. For love. And I am bubbling with excitement over our upcoming projects and experiences. But adjusting personally, as a family, and as a business — especially during such global upheaval, crisis and weariness — will take time. And I just keep reminding myself that that’s okay. We are all overwhelmed and exhausted, every single day.
As I waddle sleepily around our new landscape, I don’t feel like I’m struggling to find my footing. Instead, I feel like I’m forming a new path, and hand-placing each pebble as I go. Good things need time to take shape.
Experiencing More While Traveling Less
This post was created in partnership with Airbnb.
As we near the one year marker of staying safer-at-home, I’m increasingly appreciative of creative connectivity, and our ability to experience more digitally while (reluctantly) traveling less physically.
One of our go-to outlets for safely learning and adventuring (as individuals, a couple, or a family) while sheltering in place has been Airbnb’s Online Experiences. Towards the start of the pandemic, I actually taught a handful of small space living classes via live video from the Cottage for Experiences. (It’s something I would’ve happily continued to do if West attended school and if parts of our property weren’t shared with neighboring homes, but our situation made it a bit too tricky for me to sustain.)
Above: Leading an Airbnb Online Experience from the Cottage (2020)
I learned just how much effort, energy and expertise goes into these online classes, and how magically they can connect people from around the globe as we keep our communities safer by staying home whenever possible.
The first digital Experience I attended myself was all about propagating plants. It’s a skill that came in handy throughout the summer— and even as recently as last week, when I clipped a part of my favorite plant from the Cottage in preparation for our cross-country move.
Above: Attending Hilton Carter’s Airbnb Online Experience (Summer 2020)
Below is a roundup of some of our favorites, as well as a few classes we plan to virtually attend in the near future.
Propagating Plants with Hilton Carter
Personal note: I attended this online experience offered by author, filmmaker, designer and plant expert Hilton Carter last summer, and it was brilliant.
From the listing: “The thing that got me excited about bringing plants into my home when I first started was propagation. Being able to take a cutting from one plant, place it in water, watch as the root system develops and then pot it in soil to make a new plant is the best way to start your journey in greenery. Propagation teaches you so much about care, bonding, and patience when it comes to your plants. This experience will start with me talking about my background and my personal journey and passion for greenery. I will then lead the class through the proper steps for propagating indoor houseplants. This won't include outdoor gardening or edible plants. Through show and tell, I will introduce you to various types of plants--from fiddle leaf figs to monsteras, succulents and cacti--and the best ways to cut them. We will then discuss what vessels work best to place them in, the water needed and how often to refresh or replace that water. Then we’ll talk about how to transition the cutting from water to soil once the roots have developed.”
How to Paint with Red Wine
From the listing: “This activity is very special, it is not only about the art, but as well about enjoying the time in a good company. We will learn to paint with RED WINE only. At the moment very few people worldwide use this technique, and I would be very happy to use it with you and help you paint with something that everyone has in their home.During the class I will explain the difference between wine technique and watercolors. I will help you understand more about supplies as paintbrushes and paper. Why we use some and not use other supplies. I will explain as well the basics of drawing lines, and how those help us on expressing ourselves.”
Animal Sanctuary Virtual Experience
From the listing: “You may not be able to visit us in person but you can still meet our amazing residents here! 100% of your tour fees goes directly to the animals. At The Riley Farm Rescue, we are able to bring the tour to you, virtually! These tours are interactive, engaging, and informative. They are great for groups and a fun team activity! We will take you around the farm to learn some fun facts about the animals and enjoy a virtual visit. You can hear their rescue stories and learn about their individual personalities. We can't wait to show you around!”
Chocolate Origins & Creation with a Maker
From the listing: “On this experience you’ll learn the true story of how chocolate becomes the world’s favourite sweet, a bitter sweet tale of hard work, artisanship and how business can be a force for good. We start with our special welcome to Jamaica. We’re located on the edge of the Blue Mountains overlooking Kingston. We’ll look down across the city towards the harbour as I give a brief history of the island and the historical use of cacao. We then get to know each other before we make our inclusion bars. I’ll tell you about how I went from a BBC Correspondent to a chocolate maker before I explain how we go from the raw ingredients to the finished yummy product. I’ll show you how to hand temper chocolate, from our original development kitchen using a bowl, a table and a spatula. Before I walk you through creating your own custom made inclusion chocolate bars.We then go right into the farm, driving over a river bed, to have a closer look at the cacao estate. We’ll introduce you to the pods up close, we’ll look inside the fruit and I’ll explain how the beans are fermented on the farm and how the nibs are processed before we unveil your bespoke bars.”
Discover the Night Sky from a Big City
Personal note: Once, as we were driving through Los Angeles, my then-3 year old looked at a long line of street lamps and remarked, “Look! Stars!” I knew at that moment that I needed to learn more about observing the night sky from the city as a family.
From the listing: “Always been curious about how to observe the night sky from a big city and how telescopes works? If yes, then this experience is for you! The experience is done online, by remotely using a telescope that is setup in my backyard, in Los Angeles. The experience will start by an intro on constellations and what is visible during the evening of the tour. Guests will learn the basics of how to read a star map. Then, guests will learn about the telescope that we will use, how it works and what can be observe with it (planets, galaxies, nebula, etc...). For at least 30 minutes, the guests will remotely use the telescope to observe the objects they selected from the star map presented during the intro. The view seen through the telescope will be broadcasted on a shared screen in Zoom, that each participants can seen what the telescope is seeing. Once the telescope is pointed to a night sky object, participant will be able to take a picture of it. The guests will leave the experience with the pictures of galaxies, nebulae and stars that they took during the experience. They will also leave with a better understanding of how telescopes work and how simple it can be to observe the night sky, even from big cities!”
Saying Goodbye to the Cottage
Saying goodbye to our cottage this week broke our hearts.
That was the first place Adam and I called home together.
We got engaged there, and then married on the front stoop.
The yard was StanLee’s first patch of earth to call his own.
It’s where Sophee joined our family.
It’s where West took his first steps— within the exact same 6’ square that, years later, he happily danced in for hours on end to delightfully obnoxious holiday songs. I
t’s where we’d stand to chat over fences and through doorways with our neighbors, who became part of our family.
We hugged nearly everyone we love dearly under the roof of that house.
It was the heart of my small business.
It was our little world.
Not a day went by in those 10 years that Adam and I didn’t stop to acknowledge out loud to one another how grateful we were to live (and work) there.
It meant so very much to us.
As I sat propped up in bed in an Airbnb during our drive across the country, bawling my tired eyes out in the middle of the night, Adam’s hand lightly touched down on my body just in time to feel the baby move. West slept safely in bed with us. The pups gently snored at our feet. Everything that matters most was pressed up against my skin. I know that.
But still.
That goodbye really, really hurt.
Mini Crib for Our Small Space Nursery
This was a bittersweet moment. I really wanted to have our second child here at the cottage.
Unfortunately, the timing simply didn't align. (Click here to read my post about becoming pregnant after trying to conceive for 2 years.)
For months, West asked to see where the baby will sleep, so we finally showed him the lil’ convertible crib, which will accompany us on our next adventure...
We have the Bloom alma mini+ crib, which is more compact than a standard design, and can convert to a larger size and toddler bed when the time comes.
